Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Taught a Class Tonight

So I taught a class tonight about Substance Facilitated Sexual Assault.
Fun times, fun times.
There are SO MANY drugs out there that are consistently used for rape. But, the creepiest one to me has to be GHB.
It's chemical STRIPPER people! Mixed with Drain Cleaner! Who the F#CK thought up this crap?? Who looks at stripping chemicals or drain cleaner and say "Hey! Let me try some of that, see what happens!" or.. "HEY! I bet if I put some of this in a drink, I can get me some!"
Good Lord. Who thinks up this shit?
A few words to the wise:
1] If you go out in a group, arrange ahead of time that you leave AS A GROUP! Nobody leaves alone, even to go to the bathroom.
2] Don't let anyone buy a drink for you. Go up to the bar and buy your own. WATCH the bartender make your drink. You would be terrified at the number of bartenders that are actually complicit in drug facilitated rapes.
3] If you order a bottle of water (perhaps you are the designated driver) Make sure you order an UNOPENED bottle of water. If you get it and it is pre-opened, send it back. Many drugs used are tasteless and colorless, and can be added to water.
4] If someone in your group starts suddenly behaving in a blatantly sexual manner when that is not their usual style, take them to the hospital to be tested. If they appear very drunk but have had little to drink, same thing.
5] Many of the girls on those sick DVD's "Girls Gone Wild" have very likely been dosed with GHB or Ecstasy. Girls don't just get into explicit "girl on girl" action all of a sudden with no past history of that behavior.
6] Someone who has been dosed with GHB may act, talk, respond to your conversation, but can actually be "unconscious". Most report taking a drink, and then blacking out. However, witnesses report that they were lively and vibrant the entire time. Or that "she/he was all over that guy, dirty dancing, kissing", etc... This is typical of that drug.
7] Alcohol is still the #1 drug used to facilitate rape.
8] A person who has had too much alcohol, self-medicated, or used illicit drugs {even voluntarily} CANNOT legally give consent to sex. Anyone who has sex with someone in that condition is committing RAPE.
Consent is where it's at people. Don't be shy! ASK your partner "is it ok if I.. touch you, kiss you, have sex with you" That way, there can be no question of consent as long as they are not under the influence of a mind altering substance.
And always remember, women are NOT the only ones to be assaulted! 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 MEN WILL BE sexually assaulted in their lifetimes.
End of lecture.
Be safe out there people!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm really glad I am past the age of wanting to go out and be in that sort of environment nowadays. I mean, I'll go on a date, but the whole scary nightlife predator thing freaks me out, in party scenes. Does this only happen in party scenes or can it happen at a regular quiet bar/restaurant? I like that this is what you do, educate and help people.

Lonestar Gal said...

Thanks for the comment. YES! That sort of thing unfortunately does happen at quiet bars too. There are some places where the bartender is actually complicit in the drugging of a potential victim. In other words, they will actually put the drug in the drink when they make it.
Sad, but true. Just be aware of your surroundings.